I can't help but feel like I've made a huge mistake.
I tell myself that it's for the best. That ending it now is better than waiting until we've gotten even more attached and then have to separate.
But I can't help but feel like I've made a huge mistake.
We both knew that it had to happen at some point. I, more than likely, won't be here more than a year. You have 2 more years of university.
Yet I still can't help but feel like I've made a huge mistake.
I never planned on being in a relationship so soon, I wanted to just date around and meet a lot of people and not let myself be beholden to anything or anyone.
And yet I still feel...
like I've let...
you down...
let you go...
let you cry over me, when I'm not really worth the tears, my dear. Each drop is a stab in the heart that we've been sharing. You're far too young and far too beautiful to let me have affected you so. You let me in, you let me stay, I let you down.
The last thing I ever wanted was to see you cry. I never meant to hurt you; I only did this to prevent the hurt from being worse.
I can't help but feel like I've made a huge mistake.
Accidental Thoughts
This place that you have come to find, was merely hidden deep within your mind.
Tuesday, March 29, 2016
Thursday, September 10, 2015
Coming to grips with the realization that you’re a loser
(or at least not as successful as you’d thought you’d be)
If you’re like me, and statistically speaking you probably
are, you’re not quite living life the way your 5 year old self had imagined. I
don’t just mean that in that you’re not an astronaut, or a cowboy, or a
professional wrestler, but that you’re maybe starting to realize just how many “you”s
there are. For the early part of your life, the most important thing you’ve
ever heard about was you. The vast majority of young children don’t think about
the “big picture”.
Interestingly, a parallel is seen
with early humanity. From the dawn of consciousness to roughly the 16th
century when Copernicus revealed his famous heliocentric theory, it was thought
that the Earth was the center of the universe, similar to how young you thought
you were the center of the world. As you grow your perception changes, and you
realize that there are a LOT of people in the world, all of whom also assumedly
think that their experience is of primary concern for the world. Likewise, as
humanity grew and learned more about the world, people realized that despite
this 3rd rock from the sun being the only known habitat of life in
the universe, we were far from the center of it.
So, here you are, thinking about
your life and how it measures up to what you thought it might have been. And
you’re probably a little unimpressed! Studies have shown that the average
person considers themselves to be of above average intelligence, which of
course statistics tells us cannot be true. It would be fair to assume that the
average person also thinks that their lot in life isn’t quite measuring up to
what they “deserve”, but of course that can’t be true either.
If you’re neither very poor or very
rich, very stupid or very intelligent, very ugly or very attractive, odds are
you’re just like me (relatively speaking). Humanity can be represented by a
bell curve; there are far more “average” people than ones at the extremes of
the spectrum. So what do we do now?
Let’s assume for a moment that
there is no afterlife. No heaven or hell, just eternal nothingness once your
brain has turned off for good. That leaves you with a very short amount of time
on Earth in which to accomplish your goals. Does it matter? Should you chase
goals? If it’s all going to disappear in an instant someday, what’s the
incentive to work hard while you’re alive? Some people think that a lack of
belief in an afterlife is counter-productive, that if people don’t have a goal
(reach heaven) that they’ll not have any motivation to “do well”.
I couldn’t disagree more. Assuming
that I have a finite amount of time left on Earth to grow, learn, discover,
love, teach, feel, travel, and share; I feel an immense urge to go and DO IT.
If you have a deadline at work do you scrap the project or do you hustle twice
as hard to ensure that you finish on time? If your boss says, “Get it done
whenever”, will you really have a fire lit under you? I am very motivated by
the concept of my own mortality, and I think that subconsciously every other
human does as well. This is what separates us from the rest of the beasts of
the Earth, we alone have the curse of realizing that we will die someday, and
that knowledge has spurred us to become to top species on the planet.
Why do we follow celebrity culture?
Why do we idolize the movie stars, musicians, the financiers? Because we see
that they are fully realizing the life that we always thought we deserved. When
you see a picture of George Clooney at a party, some part of you recognizes
that the difference between him and you is so minute that had a few minor occurrences
in the past gone differently, that could be you rubbing elbows with “the elite”.
They are really no different than you or I, they are subject to the same
insecurities, the same doubts, the same physical and mental problems.
So maybe you can’t act like George
Clooney, or sing like Adele, or predict the stock market like Warren Buffet.
You can still enjoy life just as passionately as they can, and the key to that
enjoyment is understanding that the meaning of life is not acquiring wealth and
status, it is to feel strong emotions and maintain bonds with other people. If
you make your goal to get rich or to get a ton of Instagram followers, the odds
are you’re going to be disappointed (you’re just average, remember?). However,
if you set the goal of finding beauty and meaning in the everyday occurrences
of life, you will NEVER miss your goal.
I think I’m rambling a bit here, so
I’ll try to summarize this as best I can. We’re all more or less the same, and
we’re all going to die someday. Don’t compare yourself to others, because this
can only breed negative feelings like jealousy, regret, or bitterness. Instead
look at your life and marvel at the beautiful intricacy of it all. The fact
that life flourished on this planet at all, despite the harsh conditions
throughout much of Earth’s history is amazing. That your consciousness was able
to come into being in a body is truly lucky. That you’re able to read this on a
computer, probably from a great distance away, would blow the minds of anyone
that died before 1950 or so.
Like Louis CK said, “Everything is
amazing and no one is happy.” Why is that? We are living at the most privileged
point in human history, we are statistically safer, healthier, and better
educated than people were at any other point in human history, yet most of us
aren’t happy. Instead of worrying about what you don’t have, be grateful for
what you do have, because otherwise you’ll never measure up.
Thursday, September 3, 2015
On the nature of existence
What cruel japes the gods do play, on mortal men doomed to die.
How unfair it seems, that we alone (that we know of) in the universe possess a fully realized consciousness. We are the stewards of our planet not only because we are the most highly evolved life form, but also because we alone are cognizant of the dangers it faces, albeit through our own actions. All other life forms on our globe are base creatures, concerned only with their immediate survival. None but us concern themselves with our physical appearance, the opinions of people we will never meet, or the true nature of existence.
And by this I mean we are cursed. Would that we could forget that which separates us from the rest of the animal kingdom. Would that we could resign from our position on the intellectual throne, for the burden of the crown can weigh heavy on our heads. How nice it must be to wake up each day unencumbered by the events of the previous or the impending problems of the next.
There must be a reason why we are the species to which this responsibility has been given. We have already hurdled at least one gigantic mental roadblock in that we understand the idea of mortality, what is the next obstacle that will block our path? Time is the 4th dimension, at some point in human history we recognized the concept of time and used it to organize our existence and that of everything around us. Will we at some point discover the 5th, and from that point make a further leap in human development?
Will future persons of our species (or more highly evolved creatures than our current Homo Sapiens) look back at our struggles in the 21st century and laugh? How simple we must seem to them, to be confined to 3 dimensional space, aware of the 4th but unable to manipulate it. Or will our increasing technological ability destroy our advancements before we are able to reach that point? There are theories, and not unreasonable ones, that suggest that once we reach the singularity, where technology is capable of increasing its own intelligence, humanity will be unnecessary.
Of course, this is a cold thought. This is the result of pure logic without accounting for emotion. If we’re to believe that there is more to the universe than meets the eye, it seems that humanity will always have a place in the universe. For as smart as an AI robot may be, could it ever experience the bliss of young love? Feel the awe of a gorgeous sunrise?
The human eye can only see a portion of the color spectrum. The ear can only hear a small range of the possible frequencies. There is an entire world underneath our feet, above our heads, and even inside of us that we will never be able to detect. We still don’t really know what dark energy or dark matter are. It’s possible that we are in but one universe among many multiverses. It’s possible that there are beings that operate in higher dimensions than us, which we will never recognize because of our human limitations. And it seems cruel to me that we have the power to imagine these things, to tease ourselves with the possibilities, knowing full well that we will never get to understand or experience them.
How unfair it seems, that we alone (that we know of) in the universe possess a fully realized consciousness. We are the stewards of our planet not only because we are the most highly evolved life form, but also because we alone are cognizant of the dangers it faces, albeit through our own actions. All other life forms on our globe are base creatures, concerned only with their immediate survival. None but us concern themselves with our physical appearance, the opinions of people we will never meet, or the true nature of existence.
And by this I mean we are cursed. Would that we could forget that which separates us from the rest of the animal kingdom. Would that we could resign from our position on the intellectual throne, for the burden of the crown can weigh heavy on our heads. How nice it must be to wake up each day unencumbered by the events of the previous or the impending problems of the next.
There must be a reason why we are the species to which this responsibility has been given. We have already hurdled at least one gigantic mental roadblock in that we understand the idea of mortality, what is the next obstacle that will block our path? Time is the 4th dimension, at some point in human history we recognized the concept of time and used it to organize our existence and that of everything around us. Will we at some point discover the 5th, and from that point make a further leap in human development?
Will future persons of our species (or more highly evolved creatures than our current Homo Sapiens) look back at our struggles in the 21st century and laugh? How simple we must seem to them, to be confined to 3 dimensional space, aware of the 4th but unable to manipulate it. Or will our increasing technological ability destroy our advancements before we are able to reach that point? There are theories, and not unreasonable ones, that suggest that once we reach the singularity, where technology is capable of increasing its own intelligence, humanity will be unnecessary.
Of course, this is a cold thought. This is the result of pure logic without accounting for emotion. If we’re to believe that there is more to the universe than meets the eye, it seems that humanity will always have a place in the universe. For as smart as an AI robot may be, could it ever experience the bliss of young love? Feel the awe of a gorgeous sunrise?
The human eye can only see a portion of the color spectrum. The ear can only hear a small range of the possible frequencies. There is an entire world underneath our feet, above our heads, and even inside of us that we will never be able to detect. We still don’t really know what dark energy or dark matter are. It’s possible that we are in but one universe among many multiverses. It’s possible that there are beings that operate in higher dimensions than us, which we will never recognize because of our human limitations. And it seems cruel to me that we have the power to imagine these things, to tease ourselves with the possibilities, knowing full well that we will never get to understand or experience them.
Wednesday, July 22, 2015
Donald Trump, modern day Narcissus, exemplifies the problems with America's political system
If you take Donald Trump seriously, I'm not sure I can take you seriously. He's a clown. A trust-fund baby, born with a silver spoon in his mouth, who masquerades as a self-made businessman. A draft dodger who has the gall to insult John McCain (whose politics I disagree with but who I respect for what he went through in service of our nation) when he can't even age gracefully (we all know that's a toupee). Though he didn't want to serve his nation when called to, he now wants to take a moral high ground and attack an actual veteran on the subject of veteran's benefits because it's politically expedient.
But besides all these things he actually has some downsides. He's a modern-day Narcissus, so in love with himself and his delusion of self-importance that he names great buildings after himself and spends much of his speeches bragging about large business deals he's done. Instead of explaining his positions or suggesting solutions to problems he loves to blame on other people, we get to hear tales of him selling apartments to "Chine-ah".
Does anyone really believe that a President Trump would act in the best interests of the American people, of the common man? Or would he act in the best interests of the Trump brand, his legacy, and his bank accounts?
But besides all these things he actually has some downsides. He's a modern-day Narcissus, so in love with himself and his delusion of self-importance that he names great buildings after himself and spends much of his speeches bragging about large business deals he's done. Instead of explaining his positions or suggesting solutions to problems he loves to blame on other people, we get to hear tales of him selling apartments to "Chine-ah".
Does anyone really believe that a President Trump would act in the best interests of the American people, of the common man? Or would he act in the best interests of the Trump brand, his legacy, and his bank accounts?
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Saturday, March 7, 2015
I was the fire that burned under your skin,
the ache that never subsided.
I was the feeling that you wont feel again,
from the heart where you never resided.
I was the day where you'd dawdle and play,
and the night where you'd look for a friend.
I was the fall, melancholy and cool,
and the summer which drew to an end.
the ache that never subsided.
I was the feeling that you wont feel again,
from the heart where you never resided.
I was the day where you'd dawdle and play,
and the night where you'd look for a friend.
I was the fall, melancholy and cool,
and the summer which drew to an end.
Tuesday, December 2, 2014
An epiphany
I had a realization tonight. About 3 minutes ago in fact. It came to me while I was watching this video.
Some people have a tendency to assume that people in general are all the same. That we have the same fears, ambitions, insecurities, etc. While watching this awesome video about the people, culture, landscape, and history of Guatemala it struck me how they were so in the moment and grounded. There wasn't an air of materialism or greediness about them.
I haven't done much international traveling but from what I've learned through others, people in different cultures don't have the same mental hangups we do. Sure, we've got a higher standard of living (based on a standard we created for our status quo) but in happiness indexes the US and other first world countries are a ways down the list. Is there a real negative correlation between wealth and happiness? Is it the fact that we're so comfortable that causes us to worry more? The logical thing to assume would be that as your quality of life increased, your worries lessened. You've got more money, more possessions, you don't have to worry about your next meal or if you'll be robbed. So why do you instead worry about what others think of you? Is it part of the human condition that we will always create problems for ourselves if we have outsmarted nature?
How awesome it would be if we could have a philosophical awakening in this culture and shed ourselves of our materialism, of our greed, and our vanity. Truly be ourselves, all of us, all of the time. No falseness, no lying, no scheming, no betrayal. We should realize that we've created technology that enables us to live incredibly comfortable lives, all of us! Our greed causes some to miss out on the life that we all have a chance at. If we shun greed and accept a slice proportionate to what the community can handle then everyone can join in enjoying the comfortable life.
But we have a short time with which to appreciate the world and how we've adapted it. The Earth is already above what is considered by many to be it's carrying capacity. And every second of every minute of every day children are being born. Some are exiting the other side of the tunnel at the same time, but not at the same rate. The crowd density inside the tunnel is increasing, causing conflict and aggression. And I'm not sure that there's anything that can be done about it.
Friday, August 8, 2014
Alone together
We were alone together
Two survivors stranded on an isolated isle deep within the ocean of humanity
Neither of us ready to admit that we needed each other
Tried so hard to pretend the other didn't exist
Until it became painfully clear
We were alone together.
Two survivors stranded on an isolated isle deep within the ocean of humanity
Neither of us ready to admit that we needed each other
Tried so hard to pretend the other didn't exist
Until it became painfully clear
We were alone together.
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